The aim of the present study is to "investigate the lived experiences of violence in the families of the new generation (couples under 30 years of age in Ilam)". The method of the present research is qualitative. The sample size of the study is a combination of four groups of five (including 1 counselor, 1 helper and 3 victims of violence), which is a total of 20 people. The research sampling method was purposeful and in the form of snowballs. The data collection tool was also a semistructured interview with limited questions. According to research findings,Types of violence in the new generation of families in Ilam city include men's violence against women, women's violence against men, parental violence against infants and children, and violence against the spouse's family. also,Techniques of violence in the new generation of Ilam city are: indifference (sexual, emotional and economic), infidelity and entering into extramarital affairs, practical violence, psychological and verbal violence (slander of betrayal, slander of underemployment, threat of beating, threat of divorce, obscenity), economic violence (non-payment of alimony, non-payment of alimony, threat of deprivation of inheritance). Finally,, Men's power-seeking, marriage without love, interference from others, cyberspace and the tendency to extramarital affairs, economic problems, changes in the structure of relationships and power in the family, addiction, especially industrial drug addiction, and weak social support for victims of domestic violence It is effective in the families of the new generation of Ilam city.