In this article at first we review about" theory" as if ,gravity center for knowledge and different definitions of it , then , we to problem.Science is anything else "problems" and "subject "is secondary and subsidiary the problems introduce and discuss , graduality ,and then , various problems integrated as "unite subject" , and brings knowledge. This matter search by centralization on social science and sociology, specially, gender sociology and family sociology, theremove, we centralized on "debatable discussions". debatable discussions are initial point for problem and afford particular in sight for perception of over look or vision and creates a station for research and new problems.